I feel over worked and unappreciated... how can I get my husband to sympathize?

just ask him, when youre older and looking back on youre life, will you be able to say!..remember that really clean house we had!! or remember those really good times we had laughing together relaxing!! if he want's to be a neat freak, thats his quirk, but you didnt sign up for that, once youre not overly messy, i dont think he should expect you to keep up with his ideals, it's not realistic...if it's like that now, imagine when kids come along!!